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Let's Talk About Self-WorthMaybe you aren’t a size 6.

Maybe you can’t do downward dog.

Maybe you aren’t exactly setting the world alight.

Maybe you don’t know who you are, or what your passion is.

Maybe brushing your teeth feels like a huge task.

Maybe you aren’t earning 6 or 7 or 8 figures like a #boss

Maybe your blog isn’t the talk of the town.

I don’t care. You, my dearest, are worth everything, everything.

Let’s talk about self-worth…

Self worth is respecting my right to be a human being not a human doing.

It means, I get space on this planet simply by being here, and I don’t need to rush/prove/busy myself to be worthy of the resources my existence uses.

I live knowing that I can touch lives and make beauty simply by being.

For me, self-worth in action is:

– Living my life with compassion

– Moving with grace

– Speaking with kindness

– Practicing ethical choices

– Being a good friend

– Growing a garden

All the things I do naturally because I am moved to do so are more than enough.

In contrast, when I begin my day and my life from a place of ‘not enough’, I am always rushing to catch up with myself in a race I can never win.

Joyful moments aren’t embraced as I’m always looking for the next task, the next thing I must do in the race to be enough.

I embrace my worthiness each day with kindness and self-compassion. (Click to Tweet!)

I embrace myself with love and kindness by releasing perfectionism and knowing that I am always a beautiful work-in-progress.

I love spending time out-of-doors, with horses, in the garden and the woods. In these places I am embodied and joyful.

I follow my daily practices; allowing myself space for yoga and meditation, for swimming and resting.

Sometimes I feel wonderful when I do these things, sometimes it’s hard and I resist getting on the mat more than I can say. In those moments I come back to the love in my heart. I listen to my body’s messages, I move to the mat with compassion for myself.

I step away from any media which doesn’t contribute to my self worth and self-love. A few years ago I did a year long fast of all media that wasn’t explicitly woman and body positive, it made a huge impact.

Your heart is beautiful because it loves so much, and so tenderly. In all of it’s wounded places, through the scars, the cracks where you have been broken open by life, you are expanded. You love even wider.

Your scars are beautiful, because scars are medals of survival. A scar can become a shooting star. Let them decorate your skin with silver-red rockets of strength and desire.

Your resilience is beautiful. It’s everything in you that draws you forward, that whispers there is another way, that it will be ok. The part of you that reassures, whispers that you have another day in you and another way onwards.

I’m blessed to share a world with one such as you.

I’m helping spread the word about the “What Is Self Worth?” e-book! This e-book features me! And many other wonderful women who are all talking about self worth and what makes them beautiful.

Want to support your self worth and beauty? First get the free “What Is Self Worth?” e-book then check out the #YesToBeautiful Group Course!


Horses in a field with text: Q & A: Building a Life with DisabilityQuestion“What can people do, who don’t feel they can start their own business or aren’t able to work in their circumstances? What kind of projects could they get involved with? What kind of things can they build their life around, if they currently lack focus? What kinds of hobbies can ill and disabled people take up?”

Answer: The real answer, of course, is to find your passion and then make it accessible. Just as you’d build a life without a disability. What do you want to do? What do you love? If you don’t know what you love, can you explore?

But I do have a list of accessible options and ideas.

Micro-volunteering – easy actions from home that benefit so many worthwhile causes.

Make sock monkeys

Write love letters

Be a chemo buddy

Crochet Angels for Hope

Make quilts for Project Linus

Therapeutic knitting with Stitch Links

Volunteer with Healing Boxes

Volunteer with local charities. Can you stuff envelopes? Answer the phone, visit people and read to them?

Taking care of a patch of land. Growing a mini-garden.

Write to Postpals




Write letters for freedom with Amnesty International

Foster an animal

What do you do? What’s your passion? Tell me in the comments below!

This post was originally published on Healing-Boxes.com

Image courtesy of Bethany Legg.


New Year, Your Way

New Year, Your Way

It’s a new year and everyone is making huge plans. There’s a new start, clean slate and another chance to get it right. What pressure!

Social pressure encourages us to make big plans, live your biggest life, change the world, lean in, make it count.

It can seem like everyone is planning amazing goals, but what if that’s not possible for you?

I believe that we need kindness more than admonishment and pressure. (Click to Tweet!)

Lasting, healing change happens organically to the schedule of your body, not when an artificially constructed calendar turns over.

I’m refusing to pressure myself just because of a calendar invented hundreds of years ago by a Pope, who obviously never met me, and probably would have branded me a witch if he had.

I don’t believe that in one year, if we work hard enough, are good enough, if we cleanse, detox, manifest, and work on ourselves enough, we will have a perfect life. Maybe this is the perfect life, the one with pains and dropped stitches and jumping cds and wonky photos.


Often resolutions are used a way of pursuing perfectionism and escaping what is. We try to escape the very human aspects of life – pain, sorrow, grief, hurt, anger through intellectualising, and self-help.

Instead, can we see life as a spiral, where we take turns at challenges again and again, learning more each time. We move not upwards but deeper and wider.

I invite you to do this new year, YOUR way:

– Celebrate at a time that works for you, not necessarily January.

– Notice the pressure to conform and fix yourself, unpick that tangle before you make a commitment.

– Value your achievements however large or small.

– Take the new year as an opportunity to celebrate rather than critique.

Wishing you a sensational 2015, my dear. I know it will be sensational, because you are.

Image courtesy of Juskteez Vu.